Here is what happened….

I was told this was better to write this down and get it out by my friend.

Some others wanted to know what happened and some said they are too scared to ask. <–This amused me a bit and I wonder why they were scared.

Is it really that rare for me too get mad?

My words must have conveyed just how pissed off  I was.

Here is what happened.

I was on the bus on the way to Osan, so I would have easier access to the subway the next day.

I received a text message from ex-boyfriend, lets call him That Pussy (TP for short). He told me to call him when I get to Seoul (Saturday) and asked if we will meet in COEX, since he wanted to by some books. I texted back OK.

The next day, I got my hair braided in Ansan and took a train (KTX) to Seoul and I messaged him where I was going to be and tried to call to tell him I was on my way.

No answer.  I ignored it — maybe he was busy.

I got to Seoul Station and I called again to say I was on my way to COEX.

No answer. I am getting a bit annoyed.

I get to  COEX and I call him again.

No answer.

I went to a hotel to check in so I would not have rush back to try to make the bus home. I couldn’t check in till 7. So, I got a locker in the mall and walked around there for a bit and bought what I wanted.

I will tell you now it is like 4 o’clock and the 1st call/text happened around 1:40 or so before I got on the train.  I got to Seoul around 3:20 because of delays and I got to COEX a little before 4pm.


I bought a book and walked around COEX and tried calling  multiple times.


When I was able to check into the hotel I did the blog post.

I even took his birthday gift back to the store I bought it from and got my money back.

I told the story to my Korean teacher and a couple of friends.

Their responses:

Friend (Guy): That little bitch. (Totally surprised me.)

Friend 2 (Girl): He’s an asshole. You will find better. Do I need to fly over there and beat some ass.

Friend (Actually she is more like Family): He better be in the hospital. Do I need to fly over there and beat some ass? This one also sends me weird videos that would make me laugh.

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Korean Teacher: He is rude and strange. (I think this is the Korean say that he is a total douchebag) . She sent me music videos of 이승기 (Lee Seung Gi) singing and it had English subtitles.  She knows I like dorky men.

Worst thing about it is that when we first met he approached me like a man it was good for a bit than other stuff happened and that day was the final draw and then some.

Needles to say I am done with TP (please don’t let this come up as a porn site in a search, I do not want the spam) .

I will find someone way better.

To the people with their head up their asses: I do not want to hear “That’s why you shouldn’t date Asian/Korean men.. blah blah.”


I do not have the time or patience to deal with your issues.

This is just one guy not all of them. I know plenty of decent ones.


– DN





9 comments on “Here is what happened….

  1. Yes, I am going to quote Beyonce here: “He’s the BEST THING YOU NEVER HAD!”

    Dude’s a loser, and seems that he showed his ass to your pretty quickly which is good. Better he does it now before you got to deeply involved. There are plenty other guys worth your time that want your time. 🙂

  2. I seem to have found your blog at a tough time for you. As a black woman living in Europe, I love reading the blogs of fellow travelers.

    Obviously I don’t know you and I don’t know your situation, but before I met my husband, I met (and loved) my share of assholes. If I can pass on one small bit of wisdom I’ve learned over the years without seeming patronizing, it’s this: Ignore the words and pay attention to the actions. This guy has been telling you how he feels by his actions. Believe him. Now find a hot guy, have a fling and feel a whole lot better. The world is full of guys who want to date you.

  3. Now that the cat is out of the bag GOOD RIDDANCE to him!

    Seems that you have some great teachers and friends and they are all right. You can certainly do better. Far as those other idiots who criticize Asian men,it could have been any race of men that could have done that.. There is no such thing as a perfect race of people no matter how many people may think so.He was a bad man who just happens to be Korean. Not all Korean men are like him. For the time being, just take it one day at a time and have fun.

  4. Yeah he is definitely an ass. I’ve been stood up before, made me feel horrible. The least they could do is cancel or just not make plans with you in the first place.

  5. Wow just wow. Yes you can definitely find someone who will treat you better and you deserve that. I’m happy that you didn’t let one bad experience change your view of Asian men as a whole. It’s amazing how many stories like that I’ve read on the internet. As if it’s possible that one person could be generalized to ANY single group.

    Bring on the new!!

  6. Okay, so has he atleast called you by now to tell you what happened to him and why he stood you up? Was he laying in a gutter down a dirty dark alley with bullet holes in both hands? And that’s why he couldn’t call you? No? Then you don’t need a man/TP in your life like that!

  7. I emailed you some other stuff that’ll hopefully make you feel better. You don’t need to deal with guys who stand you up.


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